I’m not sure if you feel the same but in my eyes toddlers can throw tantrums like no other. They seem to feel huge emotions all at once and have no coping mechanism of how to control them, would you agree?
I am no expert but I’ve dealt with many tantrums in my time. I hope these simple tips can help you out in a time of need. Going back to basics:
1. Don’t Shout!
It can be tempting to scream back at your toddler whilst they have a melt down but in my experience if you bring your voice down to a quiet whisper or calm tone they seem to react a lot better. Whether it's a few words of encouragement or something they find funny, being calm in this situation seems to ease their mind and soothe them.
2. Give them a safe space
Remember what it was like when you had a teenager tantrum and wanted to be alone in your room? I think this works the same way for toddlers sometimes. Obviously keep them in sight but even if they sit in their own room and play a game alone it can easily calm them down and settle their mood. What tantrum, they say?
3. Understand them
Toddlers can definitely feel emotions, but they don’t know what to do with them so if you listen to them and understand their problem they will learn to respect you and turn to you for help. It could simply be that you are washing their favourite blanket but instead of ignoring them and dismissing the situation, take them to the washing machine and show them why the blanket needs to be washed and involve them in your decision making.
4. Be consistent
It might be very hard to keep your cool with a screaming toddler at all times but the key thing to surviving the toddler tantrum stage is to stay consistent with how you react. Basically choose your battles and stick to your plan as much as possible.
5. Ask for help
Trust me when I say all of your friends and family have gone through the toddler tantrum stage. There is no harm in asking someone for a bit of guidance or asking for a few tips and tricks if you are struggling to settle your toddler. You never know, that one tip might work straight away and your problems are solved!
I’m no child expert but in my experience these are the things that have worked for me and I wanted to share them with you in case this post helps even one struggling mum.